So often have I held the conviction that closeted men are just scared of the future and are late in blossoming into their inner-beings. Most recently, I’ve had the opportunity to travel into the middle east – specifically, Jordan and now Turkey – and my ideas have changed.
People are influenced by culture and surroundings. And though the views of homosexuality in the middle east express that it’s somewhat non-existent, I’m beginning to believe that the idea of coming out is heavily dependent on one’s family morality.
If you’re in a society where it doesn’t culturally exist, how can you expect to suddenly alter your views throughout the chaotic confusion of sexuality. Sexual preference is taught at a young age: boys will be boys and girls will be girls.The intermixing of the two genders instantaneously result in dating the opposite sex – and when family values surface at the center, it’s harder for a man or that woman to fully embrace their independent feelings.
If you’re with someone that isn’t out, don’t suddenly deny their attention. Depending on the depth of your friendship, you might be the person he or she needs to help unveil the suppressed feelings and eventually come to terms with their natural preferences.